This is an excellent example of how to actually gentle parent! I know most of the time we are trying to break generational curses but it’s hard when kids don’t listen. Giving clear consequences, the first time, then following through with them is not the same as threatening then going crazy because they didn’t obey. Set the expectations and work with them, with love, then everybody knows what’s up. We’re all gonna lose it if we have to say it 5 times. Keep it simple. Keep it safe. Live your lega